I learned something very important. I opened up to one of my best friends about how I always feel like I say a joke or the stupidest things and that I’m oversharing when I say those stupid things. She added on to that, saying how there’s a little voice in your head that enjoys bringing yourself down without thinking anything about it. In fact, that little voice thinks it’s funny when it makes those mean jokes about yourself.
Now, at this moment I was crying like Niagra Falls because it’s true. That voice inside my head thinks it’s fun and satisfying to bully me. My friend told me that the reason they don’t laugh or play along is that it’s not fun to be a bully, not even in a funny way.
After that whole conversation, I asked her that if I ever make a joke like that again to tell me that it wasn’t funny and to make it aware that all I’m doing is bringing myself down by saying stuff like that. She promised she would tell me.
My point of telling you this whole story is because the mind is a powerful muscle, it basically dictates your whole life. Think about it, the mind tells you when to breathe, walk, talk. The mind thinks tens of thousands of thoughts a day. The amount of steps I walk in a day is significantly less than the number of thoughts I have in a day. That’s crazy! So when that mind that can do just that “turns to the dark side” then all you’re going to get are negative results.
Don’t be mean to yourself. And I mean it! Don’t even make a negative joke about yourself. Self-deprecation is dangerous. Naturally, we are our own worse critics. We’re that guy that stands in the corner of a hip hop concert and writes about how the entire night was “uneventful” even though everyone was having fun. Don’t be that guy and don’t put yourself in that dangerous position. Because in the end, after all that beating of yourself down, you’re going to feel terrible and emotionally exhausted.
Feeling gross is not worth the mean jokes! It may seem odd, unnatural, and out-of-character but be nice to you even if it means forcing yourself to do so.
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